Balancing Your Work Life and Your Marriage Can Be Difficult: These 4 Tips Will Help!
Statistically, the top 4 reasons for divorce are as follows (and NOT necessarily in that order): 1.
Finances 2.
Physical Compatibility 3.
Spirituality 4.
Choice of Profession (Career or Work) Wow you say, right? Who knew that your choice of "faith" could hamper your marital life? As if that was not enough, along comes your work as a barrier to marital bliss! If you find your marriage constantly a pain in the a--e due to your chosen career, you might want to pause and consider the tips below as they have been proven to work like "gang busters".
It is still a source of constant amazement for many so-called workaholics when they discover that the divorce papers they have just been served is due to their spouse feeling neglected.
The amazement is really as a result of the fact that - here they were thinking they were out there working their butts off for their loved ones only to come home to packed suitcases and angry spouses! So what went wrong? What happened? And HOW did it happen without their knowledge? The answer is really simple - gradually their work life and marriage life, so to speak, became unbalanced.
The good news is that it is not too late for you to balance both lives! This article will reveal 4 tips which will help you achieve that delicate balance so that you can begin to put as much energy into your marriage as you do into your job.
Let's go...
1.
Where Your Energy Goes Is Where Your Heart Is...
The first thing you MUST realize is this: "What you think is important is not necessarily what your spouse thinks is important...
Unfortunately many people do not get it.
Yes, your job is important.
Yes, you need all the goodies and opportunities which your job (and salary / income) provides.
NO - your job is not the most important aspect of your life! You may be wondering how come your spouse cannot "get" the fact that you consider him or her as being more important as your job - well here is how he or she CANNOT get it: You spend and awful LOT of energy on that job - more than you do on your marriage! Simple deductive skill would indicate that it must be more important to you.
Tip: Put as much time in your marriage as you do in your job - simple really.
2.
Be Home While At Home...
When you are at home from work you need to ensure that you are FULLY at home! While at home make sure your spouse can see that you are really there and available for her or him.
Ensure that you leave the work at work (that is why it is called "work" - if not it would be called home, right?).
3.
Socialize With Co-Workers Only If It Includes Your Spouse...
While I have nothing against after work socializing, you need to understand that that time can be converted to "spouse time".
Try to only socialize with co-workers after work hours if you can bring your spouse along because not doing so will only "steal" time that you could be spending with your loved one which will further take away time and energy from your marriage.
4.
Requesting for Volunteer Work is a No - No! As much as possible, you need to ensure that you do not request for volunteer work or out of town travel etcetera.
If you must, you need to consult with your spouse and be open about what it will entail.
You need to also note that your partner may not be forthcoming with a straight yes or no as the case may be - try to "hear" what he or she is not saying or what he or she is "actually" saying.
Your partner may be saying "yes" just to avoid an argument.
Finances 2.
Physical Compatibility 3.
Spirituality 4.
Choice of Profession (Career or Work) Wow you say, right? Who knew that your choice of "faith" could hamper your marital life? As if that was not enough, along comes your work as a barrier to marital bliss! If you find your marriage constantly a pain in the a--e due to your chosen career, you might want to pause and consider the tips below as they have been proven to work like "gang busters".
It is still a source of constant amazement for many so-called workaholics when they discover that the divorce papers they have just been served is due to their spouse feeling neglected.
The amazement is really as a result of the fact that - here they were thinking they were out there working their butts off for their loved ones only to come home to packed suitcases and angry spouses! So what went wrong? What happened? And HOW did it happen without their knowledge? The answer is really simple - gradually their work life and marriage life, so to speak, became unbalanced.
The good news is that it is not too late for you to balance both lives! This article will reveal 4 tips which will help you achieve that delicate balance so that you can begin to put as much energy into your marriage as you do into your job.
Let's go...
1.
Where Your Energy Goes Is Where Your Heart Is...
The first thing you MUST realize is this: "What you think is important is not necessarily what your spouse thinks is important...
Unfortunately many people do not get it.
Yes, your job is important.
Yes, you need all the goodies and opportunities which your job (and salary / income) provides.
NO - your job is not the most important aspect of your life! You may be wondering how come your spouse cannot "get" the fact that you consider him or her as being more important as your job - well here is how he or she CANNOT get it: You spend and awful LOT of energy on that job - more than you do on your marriage! Simple deductive skill would indicate that it must be more important to you.
Tip: Put as much time in your marriage as you do in your job - simple really.
2.
Be Home While At Home...
When you are at home from work you need to ensure that you are FULLY at home! While at home make sure your spouse can see that you are really there and available for her or him.
Ensure that you leave the work at work (that is why it is called "work" - if not it would be called home, right?).
3.
Socialize With Co-Workers Only If It Includes Your Spouse...
While I have nothing against after work socializing, you need to understand that that time can be converted to "spouse time".
Try to only socialize with co-workers after work hours if you can bring your spouse along because not doing so will only "steal" time that you could be spending with your loved one which will further take away time and energy from your marriage.
4.
Requesting for Volunteer Work is a No - No! As much as possible, you need to ensure that you do not request for volunteer work or out of town travel etcetera.
If you must, you need to consult with your spouse and be open about what it will entail.
You need to also note that your partner may not be forthcoming with a straight yes or no as the case may be - try to "hear" what he or she is not saying or what he or she is "actually" saying.
Your partner may be saying "yes" just to avoid an argument.
