Help Save Marriage by Working Together Or Even on Your Own
Those who want to help save your marriage from ending disastrously need to work together.
Your marriage was once very important to you and it can be very upsetting watching it fall to pieces.
It will be so sad if you sit by and start moving apart.
If you haven't given up completely and you shouldn't then start now by if you don't want that to happen then do something about it.
Start today to help save marriage.
Try these steps for starters: Cool Down: You need to cool things down.
If you are arguing, step out of the situation in your head and calm down.
Matters can get very hot and one of you needs to bring the temperature down and it might as well be you.
I am not suggesting that you walk away but keep your control and count to 10 or a 100 if you must.
This may be a technique you have applied before but trust me, taking a breath before you lose control completely will do a lot to dampen things down.
Do not lose your temper, you have probably done it before and it hasn't worked, just aggravated the situation so cool it.
By doing this you will begin to talk or at least exchange a few civil words and begin the next step to help save marriage.
Recognize what is occurring; If you have followed the first steps and are trying to take a little time out, try and see what might be happening.
There is a big world out there and there are lots of different angles to any picture.
Yes it might look like the end of your world at the moment but try shifting your perspective, try going out of your situation and viewing it as others might.
It may start to look a whole lot better than you thought.
If you can view things through other eyes, possibly even those of your spouse you might be able to start to understand why things are in a downward spiral and that might start to give you some guidance to help save marriage.
Get your sense of humor back If that is possible.
In other words try not to take yourself or the situation too seriously.
Sometimes it is easy to create a storm out of nothing really and if you can stand back and think we will find this situation funny later on, then bring that later on into the now.
Sometimes by trying not to take things to heart, you can see the funny side as well and while things might be rough for you now, having a laugh at how things can get out of control is often the best thing.
If you both have a tendency to make mountains out of molehills, perhaps you will find that what started this particular argument off, amounts to nothing really.
Try and advance from here.
If you have had a chance to stand back and see some different perspectives, then you have a chance to progress.
Look for ways to improve: Once you have had a chance to step back and catch your breath and then been able to get some perspective on the situation, you can move on.
If you can break down the problems you have been having into manageable chunks then you begin to see that the problems are not insurmountable Then what remains is to try and solve matters and move forward.
You are probably as much to blame if there is blame as there are two sides to every story.
If you can take responsibility for some of the things that have got out of control, if you can learn to stop overreacting perhaps and if you can work on how you handle any given situation then you are well on the way to help save marriage
Your marriage was once very important to you and it can be very upsetting watching it fall to pieces.
It will be so sad if you sit by and start moving apart.
If you haven't given up completely and you shouldn't then start now by if you don't want that to happen then do something about it.
Start today to help save marriage.
Try these steps for starters: Cool Down: You need to cool things down.
If you are arguing, step out of the situation in your head and calm down.
Matters can get very hot and one of you needs to bring the temperature down and it might as well be you.
I am not suggesting that you walk away but keep your control and count to 10 or a 100 if you must.
This may be a technique you have applied before but trust me, taking a breath before you lose control completely will do a lot to dampen things down.
Do not lose your temper, you have probably done it before and it hasn't worked, just aggravated the situation so cool it.
By doing this you will begin to talk or at least exchange a few civil words and begin the next step to help save marriage.
Recognize what is occurring; If you have followed the first steps and are trying to take a little time out, try and see what might be happening.
There is a big world out there and there are lots of different angles to any picture.
Yes it might look like the end of your world at the moment but try shifting your perspective, try going out of your situation and viewing it as others might.
It may start to look a whole lot better than you thought.
If you can view things through other eyes, possibly even those of your spouse you might be able to start to understand why things are in a downward spiral and that might start to give you some guidance to help save marriage.
Get your sense of humor back If that is possible.
In other words try not to take yourself or the situation too seriously.
Sometimes it is easy to create a storm out of nothing really and if you can stand back and think we will find this situation funny later on, then bring that later on into the now.
Sometimes by trying not to take things to heart, you can see the funny side as well and while things might be rough for you now, having a laugh at how things can get out of control is often the best thing.
If you both have a tendency to make mountains out of molehills, perhaps you will find that what started this particular argument off, amounts to nothing really.
Try and advance from here.
If you have had a chance to stand back and see some different perspectives, then you have a chance to progress.
Look for ways to improve: Once you have had a chance to step back and catch your breath and then been able to get some perspective on the situation, you can move on.
If you can break down the problems you have been having into manageable chunks then you begin to see that the problems are not insurmountable Then what remains is to try and solve matters and move forward.
You are probably as much to blame if there is blame as there are two sides to every story.
If you can take responsibility for some of the things that have got out of control, if you can learn to stop overreacting perhaps and if you can work on how you handle any given situation then you are well on the way to help save marriage
