Why Tell the Children First? How to Announce You Are Marrying Again
You are now experiencing mixed feelings due to your recent engagement and upcoming encore wedding.
The delight, the anxiety - you just can't believe how blessed you are! At this time you are about to announce it to the world.
Aside from asking details about the proposal, and whether you said YES, you need to be ready with the answers to two questions: When do you plan to get married, and Where! You can always change these details later but most individuals will straightaway be thinking about their own plans.
Therefore, who should you tell first? If you have children, they should be the first to know, followed by parents, ex-partners, siblings, and close friends, in that order, before everyone else.
Be very careful when you are telling your young children the news.
As soon as they hear it, whatever dreams they have of their parents' coming together may burst into thin air and greatly affect them.
Reassure them that they are safe, loved, and involved as much as possible.
Your children's emotional state deserves to be conveyed and treasured.
Walk the line between inhibiting and over-indulging their feelings.
Grown children often respond unkindly or unkindly.
Be tolerant of their questions.
Listen to them.
They have your best interests at heart (really!) and they may raise some valid points.
Show them how exultant you are so that they will not worry.
If you're close to your parents, you'll be eager to tell them your news.
Whatever their reaction, remind yourself their feelings are their own and really have nothing to do with yours.
Let your former partner know that you're marrying again sooner, not later.
It is not proper if they will hear the news from your kids first.
Meet to discuss your future plans, the impact it will have on the children and the coming changes.
If you can't or won't meet face to face, then the next best option is a telephone call; a letter or email should be your last option.
Some etiquette sources suggest announcements for encore marriages should wait until after the ceremony, while others say you should handle them just like your first.
It's entirely up to you to decide this together.
Take note that under all the specifics of obligations and in-laws and ten thousand practical concerns, it comes down to you, your partner, and your kids producing your own common destiny.
Cheers to your engagement.
You can now begin planning for your encore wedding with a wiser disposition for it to be a love to last...
this time.
The delight, the anxiety - you just can't believe how blessed you are! At this time you are about to announce it to the world.
Aside from asking details about the proposal, and whether you said YES, you need to be ready with the answers to two questions: When do you plan to get married, and Where! You can always change these details later but most individuals will straightaway be thinking about their own plans.
Therefore, who should you tell first? If you have children, they should be the first to know, followed by parents, ex-partners, siblings, and close friends, in that order, before everyone else.
Be very careful when you are telling your young children the news.
As soon as they hear it, whatever dreams they have of their parents' coming together may burst into thin air and greatly affect them.
Reassure them that they are safe, loved, and involved as much as possible.
Your children's emotional state deserves to be conveyed and treasured.
Walk the line between inhibiting and over-indulging their feelings.
Grown children often respond unkindly or unkindly.
Be tolerant of their questions.
Listen to them.
They have your best interests at heart (really!) and they may raise some valid points.
Show them how exultant you are so that they will not worry.
If you're close to your parents, you'll be eager to tell them your news.
Whatever their reaction, remind yourself their feelings are their own and really have nothing to do with yours.
Let your former partner know that you're marrying again sooner, not later.
It is not proper if they will hear the news from your kids first.
Meet to discuss your future plans, the impact it will have on the children and the coming changes.
If you can't or won't meet face to face, then the next best option is a telephone call; a letter or email should be your last option.
Some etiquette sources suggest announcements for encore marriages should wait until after the ceremony, while others say you should handle them just like your first.
It's entirely up to you to decide this together.
Take note that under all the specifics of obligations and in-laws and ten thousand practical concerns, it comes down to you, your partner, and your kids producing your own common destiny.
Cheers to your engagement.
You can now begin planning for your encore wedding with a wiser disposition for it to be a love to last...
this time.
