How to Have a Good Marriage in a Bad Economy
Most of us realize that a major cause of failed marriages is directly related to finances.
And, that's when the economy is good! Sustaining a good partnership when the economy is bad can make or break the marriage.
In Patrick's own words, "How to Have a Good Marriage in a Bad Economy" endeavors to "capture the positive aspects of a true marriage.
" He goes on to explain why recessions ruin marriages.
It should come as no secret that stress is an underlying factor.
Before you say, "well duh" understand that the bad economy represents lack or as Patrick says "the absence of time, desire and of course money.
" Have you ever taken the time to actually identify and understand your weaknesses? There is an entire chapter devoted to recognizing your weaknesses.
Learning why you fight and play the "blame game" leads you to a better understanding of what the REAL problem is.
Once that's accomplished you are able to easily make up and move on.
Make no mistake, however, pinpointing your strengths are what will help you identify why you love one another, help you communicate more effectively and learn the special traits that brought you and your spouse together to begin with.
One of the more difficult situations we face each day is finding enough time for what we must do, what we want to do and finally what we actually do.
For most of us we fall under the last definition.
Sadly that's the reality for many people in this tough economy.
The good news is that learning how to "make time" is covered in its own complete chapter.
Detailed information is presented teaching how to find time for each other, for yourself and time for all the rest of your responsibilities.
Of utmost importance is the section that gives tips on time management for couples.
It's hard to just randomly decide you want to create more time.
The reality is that we all have the same 24 hours.
Each day we choose whether we are going to spend it or invest it.
The chapter on "Making Time" gently guides you through an understanding of how to cut out unnecessary time wasters.
It also presents a road map towards a better understanding about how to stop procrastinating and learn how to reprogram bad habits.
Whatever you do, don't think that Patrick advocates sitting back and not being concerned about generating money.
Rather, you will find a refreshing approach to learning how to make money.
Not only make money but learn how to spend it wisely as well.
Obviously this must begin as a joint effort.
Whatever you do, please learn to accept that this must be a mutual undertaking.
You have to welcome the concept of "we" and "ours" instead of "me" and "mine.
" You may shudder at the concept of a budget, but understand that once you commit to the idea and work as a partnership to meet the goals you establish, the sky is the limit! Your potential increases exponentially when your efforts are doubled.
There's a saying out there somewhere about how much easier it is for two people to paddle a canoe rather than just one.
The truth of the matter is that you don't just double the results - your far exceed the expectations.
Hence, the exponential results.
The only thing to do is implement the actions as outlined for you.
No treatise on a good marriage would be complete without a discussion about lovemaking.
In this chapter Patrick says, "It makes no difference how young or old you and your spouse are or how long you've been together.
Physical intimacy is a necessity for any healthy marriage.
" Intimacy is discussed in depth in this chapter.
It is important to understand that intimacy does not automatically equate to sex.
Here is the one place where all the hassles of the day can take a backseat and you can make or break your relationship.
Learn how to rediscover one another, implement a few simple tips to make sex fun again.
All of the tips work together toward one important goal: to make your bedroom a sacred place.
You could probably read just the last chapter of Patrick's book and change your life for the better.
We don't recommend that, but you probably could.
In Patrick's words, "A recession can take many things from people; it can shake up your life and perhaps even destroy your credit or career.
But it can't take what's most precious to you - your partner.
Even that word - partner - is a powerful one in a recession.
That you have a partner tells you that you're not in this alone.
It also suggests a certain combined strength.
You and your spouse will see many things through the course of your life together.
This recession is temporary; your love is permanent.
And, that's when the economy is good! Sustaining a good partnership when the economy is bad can make or break the marriage.
In Patrick's own words, "How to Have a Good Marriage in a Bad Economy" endeavors to "capture the positive aspects of a true marriage.
" He goes on to explain why recessions ruin marriages.
It should come as no secret that stress is an underlying factor.
Before you say, "well duh" understand that the bad economy represents lack or as Patrick says "the absence of time, desire and of course money.
" Have you ever taken the time to actually identify and understand your weaknesses? There is an entire chapter devoted to recognizing your weaknesses.
Learning why you fight and play the "blame game" leads you to a better understanding of what the REAL problem is.
Once that's accomplished you are able to easily make up and move on.
Make no mistake, however, pinpointing your strengths are what will help you identify why you love one another, help you communicate more effectively and learn the special traits that brought you and your spouse together to begin with.
One of the more difficult situations we face each day is finding enough time for what we must do, what we want to do and finally what we actually do.
For most of us we fall under the last definition.
Sadly that's the reality for many people in this tough economy.
The good news is that learning how to "make time" is covered in its own complete chapter.
Detailed information is presented teaching how to find time for each other, for yourself and time for all the rest of your responsibilities.
Of utmost importance is the section that gives tips on time management for couples.
It's hard to just randomly decide you want to create more time.
The reality is that we all have the same 24 hours.
Each day we choose whether we are going to spend it or invest it.
The chapter on "Making Time" gently guides you through an understanding of how to cut out unnecessary time wasters.
It also presents a road map towards a better understanding about how to stop procrastinating and learn how to reprogram bad habits.
Whatever you do, don't think that Patrick advocates sitting back and not being concerned about generating money.
Rather, you will find a refreshing approach to learning how to make money.
Not only make money but learn how to spend it wisely as well.
Obviously this must begin as a joint effort.
Whatever you do, please learn to accept that this must be a mutual undertaking.
You have to welcome the concept of "we" and "ours" instead of "me" and "mine.
" You may shudder at the concept of a budget, but understand that once you commit to the idea and work as a partnership to meet the goals you establish, the sky is the limit! Your potential increases exponentially when your efforts are doubled.
There's a saying out there somewhere about how much easier it is for two people to paddle a canoe rather than just one.
The truth of the matter is that you don't just double the results - your far exceed the expectations.
Hence, the exponential results.
The only thing to do is implement the actions as outlined for you.
No treatise on a good marriage would be complete without a discussion about lovemaking.
In this chapter Patrick says, "It makes no difference how young or old you and your spouse are or how long you've been together.
Physical intimacy is a necessity for any healthy marriage.
" Intimacy is discussed in depth in this chapter.
It is important to understand that intimacy does not automatically equate to sex.
Here is the one place where all the hassles of the day can take a backseat and you can make or break your relationship.
Learn how to rediscover one another, implement a few simple tips to make sex fun again.
All of the tips work together toward one important goal: to make your bedroom a sacred place.
You could probably read just the last chapter of Patrick's book and change your life for the better.
We don't recommend that, but you probably could.
In Patrick's words, "A recession can take many things from people; it can shake up your life and perhaps even destroy your credit or career.
But it can't take what's most precious to you - your partner.
Even that word - partner - is a powerful one in a recession.
That you have a partner tells you that you're not in this alone.
It also suggests a certain combined strength.
You and your spouse will see many things through the course of your life together.
This recession is temporary; your love is permanent.
